“J.M Kearns' Why Mr. Right Can't Find You really gets at the roots of attraction between men and women in an intelligent, useful way. It will give women some radically honest insights into how men look for love, and it will empower them to play a more active, adventurous role in finding Mr. Right. He's out there, for sure—and this is the only map you need.” — Marni Jackson, award-winning author and journalist
“A literary MRI of the male brain.”~ Georgie Binks, CBC News Viewpoint.
“Kearns insists it’s really not difficult to direct the right man to you, whether it’s online, someone you already know, or a total stranger. So read this, sit back and wait for the offers to pour in... Kearns says we should break the mentality of ‘acceptable’ places and realize ‘any time is a good time to meet Mr Right.’ And sadly, men can’t read our minds to establish our interest, so direct him to you.” — Cosmopolitan-UK
“J.M. Kearns pops in to debunk traditional dating advice. Forget Mars and Venus, Kearns claims a lot of men, just like women, want a meaningful relationship. So if you’re female, find out this hour why Mr. Right can’t find you. J.M. Kearns is a former crisis counsellor, current dating philosopher and music man who writes love songs and books about intimacy, love and heartbreak. This year he’s on a bit of a mission to release cynical females from archaic dating patterns. He says, Mr. Right is out there and can find you. And he reveals surprising secrets about compatibility, so you can eliminate the Mr. Wrongs in your life. All the women on my staff were all over this."
— Fanny Kiefer on Shaw TV’s Studio 4
"Cool and smart. The entire world should read it." — Julia McKinnell, Contributing Editor, Maclean's
“How Men Choose Women [Chapter 3 of this book] may well be the most insightful 11 pages I've encountered on that subject.” — Wendy McElroy, The Globe & Mail.
“J.M. Kearns... says women are living under dating myths. The first being men are looking for the skinny, model-type women they see on TV. ‘No matter what your natural body type ... there will be men out there that like that,’ he says. And he should know. Kearns wrote the book after his own adventures in dating land. ‘I was out there in the trenches,’ he says, and felt it necessary to defend men against some of the negative...self-help books’ stereotypes.” — Carly Krug in Vancouver 24 Hours
“A real contribution to better understanding between the sexes. J. M. Kearns gives the lowdown on what a man is really thinking as he sizes up a woman (it's better than you think).”~ Nicole Langlois, London Free Press “J.M. Kearns in his excellent new book Why Mr. Right Can't Find You,...unlike other self-helps for the single woman, starts with the premise that there is nothing wrong with you. You do not need to be ‘fixed’. Kearns...has a Ph.D. in philosophy and has worked as a crisis counsellor... Whereas other how-tos portray men as unknowable aliens interested only in hard-to-get women, Kearns has a different take. A lot of men...he says, want a meaningful relationship. ‘Contrary to the dating books,’ he writes, ‘if you get into a conversation with the right man you won’t have a problem knowing what to say!’” — Julia McKinnell, Maclean’s
“Too much choice? Not a chance, says J.M. Kearns, author of Why Mr. Right Can't Find You. In fact, Kearns argues, "When you have more choice, you have to get more rational about it," which means the Internet may be teaching us all how to get to the important stuff before we get swept away by surges of hormones and powerful attraction...He busts myths about online courtship, offers suggestions on how to accurately present yourself and what you're seeking, and dishes on how to deconstruct other people's profiles. Kearns' message: what have fate and destiny done for you lately? Fire up that modem and get in the game. — Tracy Picha, Flare
“‘I felt there was good news about men that wasn’t reaching single women,’ Kearns explains from his home in Nashville, Tennessee...Kearns says that finding a mate should be treated as a serious challenge, deserving of a serious, sustained effort...He also emphasizes optimism – after all, Mr. Right is also looking...In addition to giving practical advice, the book asks probing questions that lead to illuminating answers...Many of his subjects were found online, but he also found a treasure trove of single women where he worked as a crisis counsellor in Nashville.” — Barbara Turnbull, Toronto Star
“In an interview from his home in Nashville, the author and musician put forth dating advice that runs counter to that other popular book, He’s Just Not That Into You. “In most of these books, men are looked at as the enemy, and dating is full of games, manipulation and rules,’ Kearns said. ‘Very little has been written about compatibility...Chemistry is nothing if you’re not compatible.’ The third chunk of the book examines internet dating, a phenomenon that has ‘changed the landscape of romance,’ Kearns said. ‘We’re talking about the most important relationship in your life. It doesn’t have to be left up to chance. It’s worth being brave. It’s worth being proactive. It’s worth the effort.’” — Joanne Shuttleworth, Guelph Mercury.
“A man wrote this book. He wrote it for women, and as a fellow guy, all I can add is ‘Amen’. The first 87 pages are worth the price alone.”~ Dan Brodribb, Windsor Star
“Help boost your confidence and pulling power with this witty and practical volume.” — Oxford Times
“Right read, for the right reasons!...Kearns busts many a myth about online dating, such as: men online only want one thing (‘probably about the same percentage who are looking for that in the real world’); a woman cannot call the shots online, it's a male stronghold (‘if there was ever a level playing field, the modern dating site is it’); a woman who goes on a dating site looks like she is desperate for love (‘online dating has long since reached a tipping point - when enough people do something, it becomes normal, accepted’); serious relationships never begin online (‘you get to know people from the inside out’); and meeting men online is not safe (‘there is safety in numbers’).” — D. Murali, Hindu Business Line
