oabout the book
Single women (and men) have been sabotaged by false beliefs that stand in the way of finding a good partner. With a philosopher's probing brain, Kearns overturns these beliefs to reveal empowering truths.
6 DATING MYTHS THAT ARE DEBUNKED
in Why Mr. Right Can't Find You
1. Destiny chose the one-and-only man for you.
2. Nice women don’t go to bars alone.
3. All men are looking for a skinny, “model-esque” woman.
4. You won’t meet Mr. Right if you aren’t dressed for the occasion.
5. Opposites attract and make the best mates.
6. A woman who conducts her own search for a good man, reveals herself to be “desperate for love”.
Are you tired of quick fixes that don't work ("How to Get Married by Next Friday"), books that treat adult women like schoolgirls ("How to talk to boys and whether to phone them") and self-righteous bullying ("How to roll up your sleeves and become a person Our Expert likes better")?
Why Mr Right Can't Find You speaks to women as equals, and offers real answers, not the same old games. J.M. Kearns writes from the perspective of a real guy who was in the trenches, looking for his own Ms. Right – a real guy who is also a Ph.D. in philosophy and a former crisis counselor.
why mr right 101
Part One of the book concerns the Real World. In chapters on the underrated chance encounter, how women and men choose each other, the importance of sightings, and the best places to meet, Kearns shows that overlooked opportunities abound for meeting desirable men.
Look for a man who is right-for-you. People tend to be carried away by chemistry (when they find it), and forget to look for compatibility, which is the other half of lasting love. But you need both. Kearns devotes Part Two of his book to an in-depth, hilarious guide to the factors that make two people click, illustrated with real-life vignettes straight from the dating trenches. That way, you can make sure a guy you're seeing is really for keeps.
Online dating, says the author, has forever altered the landscape of mating – for the better. Part Three of the book explains how to navigate through this tricky world to the unique man you seek. Kearns (who met his partner online) gives clear, honest advice on sites, photo sets, matchmaking, body issues, and that crucial first meeting.
"A literary MRI of the male brain."
— Georgie Binks, on CBC New Viewpoint
